I Can’t Find My Boaz

            I can count countless times on my hand, how many single sisters have said, “Where is my Boaz?” If you really want to be real, you said it too.  How many times, when single sisters get together who desire marriage one day; spend the majority of their outings talking about relationships.  Don’t get me wrong; there is absolutely nothing wrong with desiring to be married, and wanting God's best for you.  Before I proceed, let me set the record straight.  Single, meaning your last name has yet to change, even though you may be in courtship with someone now.  After seeing sisters go through heart ache and bad break ups, I can’t help but to have compassion towards these sisters.  Some may have ended up wounded from a past relationship due to bad decision-making.  Maybe early on in the courtship, you ignored the red flags thinking things will get better or loneliness set in.  As I continue on this topic, let’s look into the word of God, and find out how Ruth got her Boaz.  We can learn from Ruth by what took place before Ruth got her Boaz.  Now let’s look into God's word:

1. It’s all about connection.  Ruth 2:1 says, “There was a relative of Naomi’s husband, a man of great wealth, of the family of Elimelech. His name was Boaz.”  Now in the book of Ruth we find out that Ruth was connected to Naomi, and Naomi was connected to Boaz.  This shows us that blessings can come out of whom we are connected to.  I’m not saying that every love connection will happen just as this, your connection may land you a job or major opportunity.  In the case of Ruth, it led her closer to being found by her husband.

2. Watch what you say.  Ruth 2:2 says “So Ruth the Moabitess said to Naomi, please let me go to the field, and glean heads of grain after him in whose sight I may find favor.”  The words you speak can either help or hinder you.  Ruth pleaded and made it known out of her mouth and by her actions; she wanted to work in the field.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t think I would have asked to be placed in the field.  Knowing me, I would have asked to work in the house where it’s cool.  One thing I take from this is that Ruth did not place herself above the field, yet she humbled herself and worked diligently in the field.  Some of us may be in a field that we hate, thinking I deserve better than this.  Let me be the one to tell you yes, you do deserve better, better is on the way.

3. Commit to doing good work.  Ruth 2:5 says “Then Boaz said to his servant who was in charge of the reapers, whose young woman is this?”  Ruth made her presence known by her works.  Ruth worked that field so good that Boaz wanted to know who was in charge of the reapers.  Instead of complaining about your field, be the best in the field that you are currently in.  Sometimes we have to do what we don’t like, in order to get what we desire.  You never know who is watching you, or who you will meet, so commit to doing good work.

4. Keep a good reputation.  Yes ladies, I said it, keep a good reputation.  Ruth 2:11 says “And Boaz answered and said to her, it has been fully reported to me, all that you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband, and how you have left your father and your mother and the land of your birth, and have come to a people whom you did not know before.”  Boaz heard about Ruth before he met her.  This tells us that Ruth was about her business.  She took care of her family, she was a hard worker, and she was humble.  Don’t allow yourself to be the woman whose name is all over the city for the wrong reason; instead be that woman who leaves a mark wherever you go.  When you leave, let people still talk about you by they way you impact those you come in contact with.  Ruth did just that and if you ask me, Ruth got Boaz’s attention.

5. Take pride in your appearance.  Ruth 3:3 says “Therefore wash yourself and anoint yourself, put on your best garment and go down to the threshing floor; but do not make yourself known to the man until he has finished eating and drinking.”  Ruth stepped on the scene in her best clothes. Ruth allowed her presence to speak for herself verses her mouth.  She didn’t go to the threshing floor being loud, thinking that would get her some attention.  Instead, she made silent moves.  Be sure to keep yourself up.  Don’t do this just to be seen by someone, do it for you.  Love on yourself, treat yourself out, and do those things you want to do.

        We all know how the story ends, Boaz and Ruth marries and have a son.  Ruth did not go looking for Boaz, Boaz recognized Ruth.  The scripture that is generally quoted when talking about relationships is Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtain favor from the Lord.” Let's not lose our focus thinking that our world revolves around a man.  Ladies, we are the prize, so prepare yourself in your season of singleness so that when your Boaz shows up you will be a gift to him, just as he is to you.  Don’t go looking and thinking that every man you meet will be your husband, or trying to picture how your kids will look with him.  Stop it!  Continue to live your life.  Enjoy where you are.  Figure out what you are good in. Discover those things you like and dislike.  Be that woman that when that man does look at you, he won’t just see a woman who is made up on the outside.  Be a woman of substance, integrity, loyalty and security in yourself. Take this time, get before the Lord, let Him love on you, and prepare you for that man whose looking for you.  Don’t get discouraged thinking it’s taking too long, or you can’t find a good man.  That man is looking for you, its like a game of hide and go seek; he just hasn’t found you yet.