Mr. Wrong
Different things often peak my interest and enable me to write for days on end. Recently, I came across a question that I felt was worth elaborating on and that I would bring forth to you. Before I provide my response let me give you the question. I really would like to hear from you afterwards, especially your first response and then after having read my point of view.
Questions: Is there a thing as a man being too nice? Do women require a mixture of a nice guy & a butthole?
- Anonymous
You know men and women think and define things differently, regardless of what Webster or Wikipedia states. Therefore, when the word nice is used, often times it is associated with a man not being able to stand up for himself. Nice in the terms of personality, even when you say in conversation, often times it is more so of "yes, he was nice", and then the look is given as, he is a push over. No one wants a person without a spine. Chivalry and being a gentleman are never to be associated with being nice. The traits are not mutually the same and should not be taken as such.
I know it sounds crazy, which is why often times you hear men are from Mars and women are from Venus. We are definitely talking right-brained versus left brained. There is no concrete science, and not a one size fit all. However, often than not, nice is associated with someone who is unable to communicate and express his feelings when it is time for them to address difficult issues. You have to have a man that can and knows how to respectfully address a woman when she is on an emotional tirade that is causing her to behave irrationally. You also need him to be able to speak up when he believes his point of view is not being taken into consideration. It is about giving and receiving respect.
Ultimately, it is about not being a doormat. Now, you heard my opinion on the posed questions, time for men and women to speak out.
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