Someone asked the question….
I am starting a new chapter in my life. May is my favorite month, as it is the month of life. Life, as defined by me, in which, I have the opportunity to celebrate my birthday, as well as, Mother’s Day and Memorial Day. Each day is an opportunity to grow and learn from past mistakes and successes. In the tune of educational development, I have had the opportunity to answer the questions of many. You have read my article on me being a virgin, if not, please go back and check it out. With that being said, most people want to know my outlook on relationships. Therefore, I have taken the questions and formulated a conceptual answer so that you know the inner workings of my mind. After reading, please feel free to answer the questions from your perspective. I love great dialogue.
Question: Can you marry someone you love but are not in love with?
Answer: No. The institution of marriage is so important to me that my love for my partner cannot waver. I may not like his actions at times, but when it comes to the overall him, because of the covenant that we would be making with God, I cannot go into it haphazardly. Love to me, is what is described in 1 Corinthians 13: 4 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”
Question: Can you have a successful relationship with a man who is broke and unemployed?
Answer: Different strokes for different folks. As for me, we cannot start a relationship with financial hardships. Therefore, just based on priorities one’s focus should not be on dating but educating themselves, in which to position them self to prosper. Last thing one should do is enter into a relationship where their aspirations and outlooks do not align. Dating cost money, nothing is free, and I am not willing to take on that burden. It’s one thing to lose your job in the course of us dating prior too, but it’s another to start on that level. I believe far too often we confuse what is for you, by accepting what is right in front of you. You have a right to say no, and not just accept any old Tom, Dick or Harry.
Question: Does your mate have to be Pentecostal in order for you to date them?
Answer: My mate must have a relationship with Christ, which includes knowing that we operate in a five folder ministry. Denomination is not going to get you into heaven. Only what you do for Christ will last. It’s relationship that I seek, not religion. I do believe no one should forsake the Assembly of God’s people, so yes he must attend services and be an active member in his church. Therefore, if one does not know and apply God to their lives daily, then we have nothing in which to build a foundation.
I conclude with this, I will live, laugh and love in all my relationships. I will seek the will of God in all that is placed before me. I will not be condemned by the ways of the world. I give you this glimpse into me, so that you understand, I am not seeking to change who you are for true change comes through Christ.
We learn best with honest, open and pure dialogue. Therefore, I want to hear from you. Let’s talk.
Tactful Talk Tuesday with Taneka