What About Your Friends
I wrote a list down of my best sisterfriends. These are women who I personally chose to be a part of my life, and whom I count as my accountability partners. They have seen me at my best and my worst. However, through it all, I never felt like a failure, condemned, or justified in doing and living in an inappropriate manner. For me, friendship is an action. It is one where my sisterfriends can be brutally honest with me and I not take offense. I want them to let me know if I am seeing things through Rose colored glasses. One thing I despise, is for someone to sit idlely by and watch someone faultier. I am aware, that some cannot and will not welcome advice from others, and that is perfectly ok. However, for me, silence is not golden, and holding your peace will you see someone you say you care about fall, is not a relationship I want to have.
Thus I ask the question:
What About Your Friends?
Do they stand around, do they let you fall?
Do they lift you up, and inspire you to be better?
Does their opinion matter, or would you rather they leave their opinions to themselves?
What is a friend to you?
These questions come to mind, because I have been accused of being judgmental. Yet, I have also been thanked for being brutally honest. You see for me, honest is the best medicine. You may be mad today or even tomorrow, but in the long run you will be happy to say that someone pointed out something that you were not ready to deal with. Now, each of my friends I deal with differently, so let’s not get it confused. I know who can hand the type A Taneka and who will need a little more finesse. It goes without saying you can get more with honey than with salt. Thus, I know when and how to tailor a message and still get my point across. The point of it all is that it is done in love. Never feel like being a friend to someone means limiting the truth. As in all relationships if you cannot have truth, then how can there be trust. How can I say I trust you, when your word is null and void? Once the trust and honesty is gone, their truly is no turning back.
We have to get back to the basics. We have to have solid foundations and relationships. They should be built on three things: honesty, respect, and love.
So tell me… What about your friends?
Tactful Talk Tuesday with Taneka