You Are Beautiful Just the Way You Are
It’s the middle of January and of course the relationship discussions have come to a head. People are constantly debating the roles of men and women, but with more focus on what the woman is supposed to be doing. I constantly have to tell myself that even though I am woman I do not have to address and take to heart the stereotypes that are perpetuated against my gender. It seems we have to fit some status quo in order to be accepted or deemed of quality. It has been determine that you cannot please everyone. My one friend who is always so spiritual, remark is remember, “Only what you do for Christ will last”. You know when someone says that to you that your moment isn’t as big or as pressing as you deem it to be. It is her way of telling me to get out my feelings, and understand that not everyone is going to have pleasant things to say.
One of the comments that I recently read had to do with the governing obligations women need to have in place. I think I may need to take a hiatus from social media. I do not have high blood pressure and I do not want it, and I also do not want to be in a perplex state of my spirit being disturbed. I digress. Back on topic, so the gentlemen (I use the term loosely) stated that he does not want to wait until the woman is married to him to determine her worth. He stated he needs to know that they are sexually compatible, that she can cook, clean, balance a checkbook, and hold down the fort. Now I can get with the idea of the basics, as I think we all need to have basic survival skills. We should not, not know how to boil water. Eating out is good some time, but not all the time, so a good home cook meal I see no one not doing that at least twice a week. What I did have a discourse with was this person, did not mention anything about relationship with Christ or what He would be doing. His ideas were basically prove to him what you can do for him.
I guess we are all guilty of this, where we are having these unrealistic expectations of one another. I mean I work anywhere from 40 – 60 hours a week. Depending on the day, I can easily have worked 16 hours. Therefore, if I come off one of those days, the likelihood of me cooking dinner is slim to none. It seems there is no flexibility. Everyone seems to want the other party to either be Superman or Superwoman. I think we are no longer looking at the coming together as a plus, but as a subtraction. I am also finding that all these expectations are not in the confines of marriage, but these are expectations while one is dating. With all that, I think we are getting away from the covenant which is God.
I do not know help me out here, what is happening with us? When did man and woman become war? When did it become this strain? I am like things have to get better. Thus let’s open the dialogue. Women speak on woman. Men speak on man. Let’s not have these ideas of woman think like a man, because that is not our design. We should not have too nor want to take on the ideology of man. Just as I do not expect man to take on the ideology of woman. How about we communicate more and take away all the dumb stuff?
Tactful Talk Tuesday with Taneka